Technology is supposed to enhance people’s lives, right? Well it's hard to believe sometimes that in today's modern world, there are instances of technology actually destroying the lives of people in their mid-twenties. Call me old fashioned but I believe that every once in a while, a person should use their mobile devices to actually place a call and speak to the person on the other end. I've encountered a lot of people on the dating scene that seem to think text-only relationships are an acceptable form of communication. I will share with you one such example of this exact case and then I ask you reader, what do you think?
This past winter I met a guy named "Tom", one of the groomsmen that I served with in my friend’s bridal party. I had met Tom a few times while my friend was dating his friend but I didn't have the opportunity to really get to know him until the rehearsal dinner. After some drinks and a lot of flirting, I decided that landing Tom would be my mission at the wedding. The wedding was beautiful and everyone had a fabulous time, including myself, with Tom by my side. I don't remember much else from this wedding (apparently the only way to woo Tom was to impress him with my binge drinking) except that I woke up the next morning with a new contact in my phone, and it was Tom! When I heard from him (via text) later that same morning and later that day with a facebook friend request, I was really excited and quite proud of myself for landing the most attractive guy at the reception. We ended up texting all weekend and made plans (via text) to meet for drinks later that week. The texting continued and again, I was really excited about all the possibilities on the horizon. Our date for drinks was a lot of fun and I couldn't wait to hear from Tom again. When I heard from him a few days later, via text, I began to wonder if I would ever hear his voice again. It was at this same time that I started to notice the never ending amount of facebook posts and activity that Tom did in a single day. As much as I liked him at this point, I was nervous that I had fallen for a partial shut-in. For the two months that followed, Tom and I continued to text on a daily basis, yet see each other face-to-face only two more times and we never once spoke on the phone. Finally, and not a moment too soon, it ended for us and I'm still not sure if it was due to a fear of carpal tunnel or lack of unlimited texting in Tom's cell phone plan.
When I look back at this faux-relationship that I got sucked into, I have to laugh. What kind of grown man (and grown woman because I must take some responsibility for this one) thinks this is acceptable behavior? If you ask me, the world has become way too obsessed with passive-aggressive forms of communication. Is there even a point to having a phone with the capability of making phone calls anymore? I guess the real question here is when did we all get so lazy? Especially men, you have all become the epitome of lazy! I’d like to go back to the olden days and land myself a caveman. Now those guys knew how to treat a lady. Nowadays, it’s hard enough to get a guy to ask you to dinner, let alone go out and chase it, kill it, skin it and cook it.
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